{Behind The Music with Jacqueline Jax} Aymber Talks About Taking Chances

{Behind The Music with Jacqueline Jax} Aymber Talks About Taking Chances


“During some of the harder times in my life, I used to go to the beach by myself a lot, just to think. What that did for me was, it reminded me just how small I was. Sometimes, it made me feel like my problems weren’t so big and that there has to be someone out there who has it worse than me. Sometimes, it made me feel like I didn’t matter at all, like I was irrelevant. When I would finally go home or be with my friends, something became very clear to me. I don’t need to be the next Beyonce, my name doesn’t have to be in lights, and the rest of the world doesn’t need to know who I am, because these people love me and I’m such a huge part of their world, and they’re such a huge part of mine, and that’s where I fit in. “- Aymber

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Aymber is a 23 year old Singer/Songwriter from South Florida. She has been writing her own music since she taught herself how to play guitar. She has traveled to multiple cities throughout the country performing her music. Aymber plans on releasing her first EP in 2015.


Aymber_music_avaliveradioJacqueline Jax logo photoGETTING TO KNOW AYMBER:

JACQUELINE JAX: How did you get your start in music?

AYMBER: Well, I’ve been singing since I was little, not in front of people or anything, just around the house, with my friends and stuff like that, everyone always told me that I COULD sing, but I had never thought of doing it as a career. So I just did the “normal” thing and graduated high school, went to college, and got my first big girl job, and within a month I got laid off. When I went to the check cashing store to cash my last check there was a guitar hanging in the window of the Pawn Shop next door. I don’t know what possessed me to spend my last dime on an instrument that I knew nothing about, but I bought it, brought it home, taught myself how to play, and wrote my first song that night, and I’ve been doing it ever since.

JACQUELINE:  Tell me about your song “EASY”.

AYMBER: “Easy” was inspired by my last relationship, it was honestly the best and worst thing that has ever happened to me. Let’s just say that he wasn’t the best boyfriend in the world and after the last fight we had it’s like something in my head just clicked. I doubted myself so much during the entire relationship and toward the end I just kept telling myself- “You deserve so much better, you made it so easy for him to love you, and he still isn’t putting in any effort”. So I picked up my guitar and started writing, and I got all of my anger out through that song. So “Easy” is like a big screw you to him (haha), it’s everything that I should have said when he was standing in front of me, but I was too angry and hurt to think of at the time. The moral of the story is NEVER break a singer’s heart, because they WILL write a song about it.

JACQUELINE: What’s the music scene like in your town? Places to go? Tell me about one fun thing you like to do that can be music or non-music related.

AYMBER:  The music scene in South Florida is more like a family, everyone kind of looks out for one another and we motivate everyone to do better, either that or I’ve just gotten extremely lucky with the people that I’ve met so far. One thing I have found is that the Open Mics are disappearing, which sucks because that’s how I got started, and how I got a lot of the shows that I’ve done, but there’s still places to sing. One of my favorite places to go is the Hard Rock down in Hollywood, FL. I’ve played there a few times, on the Paradise Center Stage and inside at the Hard Rock Cafe, the crowd is always very responsive, it’s a blast. When I’m not playing I still go just to hang out with my friends or to see the local bands, because they’re usually pretty awesome, and more times than not I know them, I love showing support to anyone trying to live out their dreams.

JACQUELINE: What do you like about social media? Have you found any challenges that you’ve had to overcome?

AYMBER: Social media got me further than I ever thought I’d be at this stage of my career. It’s helped me reach fans around the world and promote my shows, and music faster than I ever thought possible. I’ve gotten messages from people all around the world telling me that my songs made their day, and that they love my voice and my lyrics, it’s an incredible feeling when you read something like that and interact with these people. It’s amazing to think that people I would never even meet in this lifetime now have access to everything that I have to offer musically, and I know that none of that would be possible without social media. I guess the only challenge I’ve had is trying not to blend in with everyone else that has the same dream that I do. There are a million girls out there who sing and play guitar and write music just like me, and they’re all trying to get to the same place I am, so I guess the battle that I’m constantly fighting is how to be different enough to stand out but not so different that I’m not ME anymore.

JACQUELINE:  Why do you think it’s so hard for indie artists to break into the mainstream big markets and gain a solid fan base?

AYMBER: Since social media and the internet in general allows you to have access to so much music from so many different places and people I feel like it’s extremely easy to get lost in the crowd. I think you have to be SO different, or SO incredible or just post in the right place at the right time and hopefully get the right person’s attention to get a break. Unfortunately, most of us aren’t that lucky, so you have to work twice as hard as the next person, it’s hard and it takes a toll on you, but if music is the career path that you chose then you already know that competition is everywhere and you need to be ready for that. Just keep working and promoting yourself and doing the best that you possibly can, and in time, everything will work out.

JACQUELINE:  Who is your favorite artist?

AYMBER: I’m a big Taylor Swift fan, since the first time I heard “Tim McGraw” I loved her writing style and how honest her lyrics were. She’s a powerhouse, she knows what she wants and how she wants to sound and how she wants to look and she doesn’t let anyone tell her otherwise, I love that. I feel like people get a record deal and then they let the people in the industry change the way they dress and speak and the type of songs they write, I’m a big believer in trusting your gut and creating your own path, and that’s what I get from her. Unfortunately, I’ve never been able to go to one of her concerts or been able to meet her, but she’s one of those people where you feel like you know her even if you’ve never met her. Hopefully one of these days I’ll get to write a song with her! Haha, a girl can dream right?

JACQUELINE:  Every true artist has a creative journey they hope for, what is the legacy you want to leave? How do you want to be remembered for your music?

AYMBER: I want to be remembered as a good person above all, someone who helped people and let them know that no matter what you’re going through, you’re never alone, and to never give up. I want to help people get through tough moments, make them laugh in good moments and make them cry in the beautiful ones. There are certain songs that remind me of people, and places and sometimes I can even remember EXACTLY where I was, what I was wearing, and who I was with when I first heard it. I want that, I want to be a part of those moments in people’s lives the same way music has been such a huge part of mine.

JACQUELINE:  What is your experience with negative energy?

AYMBER:  I spent a lot of time surrounded by negativity, and for a very long time, I thought that was normal. I thought that relationships, both romantic and platonic, were full of drama, arguments and problems, and it was just a part of life that everyone had to deal with. It was only recently that I realized, not only was I surrounded by negative people, but I was turning into a really negative person. That’s when I decided to put myself and my dreams first. I eliminated all of the toxic people in my life, anyone who made me question myself or feel bad about myself or what paths I chose in life I just completely cut off. When I did that, I found that the pressure to be someone I wasn’t completely went away. I no longer had to try and impress anyone, or seek anyone’s approval but my own, including anyone in the music industry. I now have a life full of people who love me, support me and encourage me to be the best ME that I possibly can. I’m so much happier than I was, and it’s hands down the best decision that I have ever made.

JACQUELINE: What are your beliefs? Do you believe in fate?

AYMBER: I’m not religious at all, but I do believe in fate. I can’t tell you how many times something didn’t go the way I wanted it to and it crushed me, only to find out that something even better was falling into place, sort of like me losing my job and then buying my first guitar. I’m a HUGE believer in positive thinking. Life is what you make it, if you choose to play the victim or bring negativity into every situation, that’s exactly what your life will be, negative and sad. I wake up every single day and I write down 5 things I’m thankful for, I turn any negativity in my life into a positive. Like let’s say I had planned to go to the beach tomorrow, but it turns out it’s going to rain, I could sit around and be pissed off about it or I can see it as an opportunity to write another song, or have a Harry Potter marathon, haha.

JACQUELINE: What are you thankful for?

AYMBER:I have the most supportive family & friends, everything that I do they stand behind me 1000%. I’m SO thankful for them, because there is no way that I would be the person that I am without their love and support, I literally could not ask for more amazing people in my life.

JACQUELINE:Where do you hope to see yourself in 5 years?

AYMBER: Hopefully, the Grammy’s haha.
But honestly, If I’m happy and surrounded by good people, I’m fine with wherever life takes me. Of course, I’d love to be on MTV and see my songs on the Billboard Hot 100 list, but if that doesn’t happen it won’t be the end of my world. I’m having SO MUCH fun doing this, I’m meeting so many amazing people, and doing so many incredible things, I’m confident that I won’t have a single regret. I’m living life to the absolute fullest.

JACQUELINE: What do you want most and how do you know it will make you happy?

AYMBER: As strange as this may sound, there’s really nothing that I want. I mean, the winning lotto numbers, a Taylor guitar, and a new car would be awesome, don’t get me wrong, but I’m pretty happy at the moment, and I’m content with what I have. Anything else that comes to me after this I’m just gonna take as a blessing.

JACQUELINE: Have you ever stepped back to look at the bigger picture of who you are and where you fit in this world?

AYMBER: During some of the harder times in my life, I used to go to the beach by myself a lot, just to think. What that did for me was, it reminded me just how small I was. Sometimes, it made me feel like my problems weren’t so big and that there has to be someone out there who has it worse than me. Sometimes, it made me feel like I didn’t matter at all, like I was irrelevant. When I would finally go home or be with my friends, something became very clear to me. I don’t need to be the next Beyonce, my name doesn’t have to be in lights, and the rest of the world doesn’t need to know who I am, because these people love me and I’m such a huge part of their world, and they’re such a huge part of mine, and that’s where I fit in. My friends and family are my world, it may not be everyone else’s world, but it’s mine. Even if I fail at this, or if something happens to me tomorrow, I left my mark with the people who care about me. I found myself when I stopped and took a look around at all of the people who love and support me, and I figured, I have to be doing something right. I’ve learned that you are who you surround yourself with, and I’m not sure what else I have to learn, but I’ll take every day as a lesson.

JACQUELINE: In your opinion what is the best way for someone to discover what they are good at and or what will make them happy?

AYMBER: As cliche as this may sound, be yourself. Everyone has something, you find what you’re good at and your happiness while doing what you love to do. Don’t try to follow someone else’s path, create your own, those are the people who make history. Be the first YOU, not a cheap imitation of someone else.

JACQUELINE: How can your life become more rich?

AYMBER: Getting my music out there is the greatest thing I could possibly think of right now. If I can connect to more people I think that would make my life richer, definitely. There’s no better feeling than knowing that someone relates to what you’re saying or feeling, and for me, that’s my music.

JACQUELINE:How do you handle conflict in your life?

AYMBER: I dont, haha.
I’ve had enough drama in my life to last three lifetimes, so now I just sort of walk away from it.
If it’s someone I truly care about, and I know they’re worth fighting for, then I’ll try to make peace. However, if the person is causing more conflict in my life than happiness, then they have to go, life is way too short for bad vibes. There was a situation with one of my ex-friends where her boyfriend was calling and texting me, trying to get me to go out with him, so I told her. She was blinded by love and didn’t believe me (even though I had the messages to prove it) she went on to tell me that I need to mind my own business, that I was ruining her relationship because I was jealous of her, and she called me every name in the book. We had been friends for years so I tried to make peace, but she wouldn’t budge. It was hard, but I just stop talking to her completely, and moved on. Needless to say, they broke up not too long after. She tried to be friends with me afterwards, but I feel like she showed her true colors that day, and that isn’t someone I would want in my life.

JACQUELINE: Do you feel that there is anything that prevents you from living up to your full potential?

AYMBER: I think the only thing stopping me is ME.
Every now and then I doubt myself, and I feel like giving up, but then I’ll talk to a friend about it and they usually get me back on track again. For awhile too, I didn’t really take care of myself mentally, physically or emotionally. I started reading, meditating, working out and eating better when I can, but sometimes those McDonald’s fries get the best of me haha. Since then, I feel like I’ve really improved, and I’m well on my way to living up to my full potential.

JACQUELINE: What is your personal definition of success?

AYMBER: To me, success is accomplishing personal goals. Whether that’s losing 5 pounds, or running 2 miles non-stop or teaching yourself how to play piano. If you make a goal, big or small, work for it and accomplish it, you’ve won, you’ve succeeded. It’s not always about money or how nice your car is or how many people know your name. For me, success is doing what you set out to do.

JACQUELINE: Do you feel that you have limits to what you can do and achieve?

AYMBER: I don’t think I have limits, and I hope I never feel that I do. The day I put a limit on what I can accomplish, is the day when I stop working as hard, and I never want that. So I hope I never feel like I made it or there’s no more that I can possibly do, because people like that don’t get very far in life.

JACQUELINE: If heaven exists what’s the first thing you would like to hear god say when you arrive at the pearly gates?

AYMBER: That I accomplished what I was put on earth for, and that he’s proud of me. Then I’d want him to tell me that Frank Sinatra has been waiting to meet me for years.. haha



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